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posted 2-2-2012 @ 06:39 AM
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Sad world we live in... (iphones, FB etc..)
I used to love heading to morning break (brew) at my workplace. I am a nurse and it was good to sit and have a chat, debrief on some of the
'situations' we were currently nursing and in general catch up and socialise.
Over the past year in particular more and more people are investing in iPhones and FB. I admit I have both but leave them in my bag when working. More
and more I go to my teabreak and sit their in near silence despite the room being filled with maybe 20 - 30 people. Click, ding, buzz, click, click,
click!
Everybody is on their phone having individual conversations and the team moral is suffering for it.
On friday last week a sad thing happend at another health facility. The story was related to me by a collegue who works at both my place of employment
and the facility in question.
There were about 20 people gathered for morning tea and after the hussle of making cuppas and taking a seat the room fell silent. One nurse though sat
with tears rolling down her face for the entire 20 min break. Nobody noticed.
She returned to her ward and worked until her lunch break where she and the other various staff gathered. Again she sat in silence with just the
clicking and dinging of phones rangout.
She went to her bag and wrote the following.
'I found out I have breast cancer last night.'
She then sent it as a text to all in the room.
Apparently she immediately recieved 6 responses of ' '
The stunned array of others present then looked up and realised she was no longer in the room. They had not even noticed anything was wrong until
recieving the message.
My friend said she did not complete her shift.
Sad I think.
I am going to ask if we can make it compulsory to leave phones away all shift. If anyone really needs you surely they can ring your workplace the
'Old fashioned way'. Good nursing begins with good teamwork. If you cannot support each other how can you be expected to support your patient in
their time of need?
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 06:48 AM
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Very sad and sobering. Has society come to where we are unable to
communicate unless via social media. I hear people bragging about how many 'friends' they have on facebook. But how many do they really have? I'm
very sad reading this.
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 06:56 AM
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Yes JD I agree, "having" friends and being a friend are two very different things.
Having been through a situation where a work colleague died after a long battle with breast cancer and now our team facing it with another one, I have
seen how supportive a group of workmates can be and what a difference it makes to the person and their family. Our group still receive a card from our
friend's family every Christmas as
they are forever grateful for all the support we gave her during her illness. But we just did it because we loved her, we wanted her to feel she
wasn't alone.
I just don't know what is wrong with people today, this technology is just such an addiction, it makes me despair where our society is heading. Sorry
for the emoticon but...
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 10:19 AM
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| Quote: | Originally posted by bridget42
Very sad and sobering. Has society come to where we are unable to
communicate unless via social media. I hear people bragging about how many 'friends' they have on facebook. But how many do they really have? I'm
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I had a chat to a friend today about how many so called 'friends' folk have on facebook, and I said I would do a breakdown of family, friends, etc, and my friend said that my true friends
would be in single figures, and he was correct. I have loads of friends who refuse to use facebook.
The above mentioned friend who is a young male, aged 33 , actually went off facebook for a while last year, and this was his note: To all my facebook friends........ I have decided to delete my
account. While facebook can be a useful tool to keep
in touch with friends and family, I am seeing a growing trend towards online bullying, misinterpreted wall posts, social commentary on what should be
private issues including relationship breakups, young children being exposed to adult conversations and the overall move away from developing real
social and conversational skills to an anti-social generation where to be someones "friend" you're only required to click a button! I apologise if
that sounds like a rant but I'm just a little concerned as to where our society is heading and the type of world our children will be brought up in.
So it's back to the dark ages for me......
He is back, but only has friends who he actually knows, and I totally agree with him!
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 10:25 AM
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My friends list is very limited.
I have also banned phones from our salon as both apprentices would get on fb...one would go off to the loo for ages...yep on fb.
If anyone needs them urgently the salon has a phone!
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 10:30 AM
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Jed dog is right, how people can carry on like she has said beats me. - where is human compassion?
A friend is a friend, not a "fake" on facebook,
this is exactly why I refuse to have anything to do with facebook, iphones, or other assorted junk.
Older I may be, but some younger people are sure not getting any smarter, or any wiser. 
They even now have a cover for your MOB so if you drop it into the loo it will be ok, Yitch,  - am sick of "ladies" in loos talking on phones, nothing is that important
unless the building is on fire. 
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 10:33 AM
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I agree. I hate it when I visit family or friends and they sit there on their mobiles instead of talking to me. I find it very rude. I am on facebook (lots of good comps on there lol). I used to
have heaps of friends on there who I know or grew up with, went to school with etc, but I ended up deleting most of them and only leaving my closest
friends and family who are a part of my life atm.
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 10:45 AM
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I love facebook, but there is a time and a place for
it, and that's definitely not on the loo!
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 11:01 AM
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Jed Dog, that is so sad, the poor lady.
The whole social world seems to be changing, people on public transport aren't chatting or reading now they just sit on their phones and ipods.
It is changing so many things and not all for the better
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 11:09 AM
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I use FB but being a baby boomer I can't understand the obsession with mobiles all the time. Those younger probably don't remember a time without
them. Yes society has changed and it will only get worse. Won't be long till we all get micro chips implanted in our heads with Bluetooth and voice
recognition and all we'll have to do is mention a name and be connected directly to another human. We won't even need to speak because it will pick
up conversations from what we are thinking. A kind of reverberation. You'll see people walking around or sitting with ridiculous facial expressions
and zoning out completely. This could be the future. A world of silence. Dr Phill may ask now. What were you thinking. But in time he'll actually be
able to know for himself.   
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Pink Shoes
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 11:24 AM
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My teenage daughter was spending so much time playing/talking/texting on her phone that we brought in some rules. I don't want my children losing
the ability to communicate (and spell, for that matter).
Her phone has to be turned off and handed over by 8pm each night, no talking or texting of an afternoon until homework, dinner, etc is finished.
She's not allowed to take her phone with her when we are going out, visiting family, etc as it would be too tempting to take it out of her pocket.
And definitely no access to facebook or other social
media.
She takes it to school (where it sits turned off in her bag all day - the school is quite strict with that which is a good thing) and then she
messages me when she is leaving school, and then when she has arrived home.
But she can still take it when she is out with her friends or hanging around on weekends, i just don't want it taking over her life.
Oh, and she has to earn pocket money to pay for her own credit. If it runs out before the month is up, she has to wait out the rest of the month until
I let her buy more. When this happens, i let her take my spare phone to school with her as a safety measure but she's not allowed to use it unless
it's to contact us.
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 11:26 AM
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That is so sad and it does not just happen at work. I find more and more at home one of us is on the computer while the other one is in another room
watching TV. Hubby and I quite often go head to head with me being the instigator saying it is not right that we sit apart so much and do not
converse. Now we make sure that we go outside and sit on the swing down the site and just talk. This to me is the best time of the day. I think
that is the one thing I will be looking forward to being on the road. No TV (Or not much) and limited computer time. I get really mad sometimes
because hubby finds it hard to just sit; he has to have his head in a book or watching TV. Must say it really bugs me. As soon as he sits down he pulls out a book. Not sure if this is the same
with all men or not??? When I worked there was not the technology there is now and we were not allowed to use the internet at work. So did not have
the problems as you do not. I have even stopped having parties because people just sit there on their phones texting all night. (Maybe I just
having boring parties lol) If you have people over for dinner or for the week end all they do is spend the time on their phones. I get myself so
uptight about it; it just gets me so angry. I call the TV the ignorant box in our house. I so hope that your work college get the help and support
that she needs and that everyone there thinks about what happened and how much they are missing out by having their heads stuck in their phones and
such.
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 11:59 AM
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Not everyone sitting on public transport with their heads aimed purely at their iPhones is texting.
All on my reading material is on my iPhone and iPad.
I love social media, but I also have a very large number of friends in real life (big enough that I was able to write a paper on the group dynamics in
year 12).
I have friends in real life that have told me they can't deal with the reality of my health issues and therefore won't be discussing, supporting,
interacting, etc, in any way with me about such topics.
Should I blame social media for that?
No, of course not.
It's just that they are unable to deal with the reality or mortality.
They still give great hugs and share laughs with me 
Sounds like the girl that went into work and cried was in serious need of taking the day off and letting such news sink in.
When the news is that fresh, and it's obvious that she doesn't have a grip on it yet, being at work and expecting others to prop her up just isn't
right for anyone involved.
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abracadabra96
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 12:00 PM
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So true. The world has gone mad!
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 12:11 PM
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I saw that they are going to have a segment on Sunrise tomorrow about a guy who goes without iPhones, emails etc to reconnect with friends -
apparently with amazing results
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 12:12 PM
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I only use facebook for competitions and my mobile phone very rarely. On the rare occasions I use
the mobile, my ear gets hot - a sure sign that my brain is being fried.
Unfortunately books are going to be phased out and kindles replace them.
In time to come, there won't be any human interaction - only with bits of metal. I feel very sad for our childrens future.
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posted 2-2-2012 @ 01:18 PM
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I take my iphone to the gym and listen to music or watch youtube videos on it as being on those machines gets monotonous after a while . I have a weight watcher app on my phone that is useful for me to track my food intake when I am on the go. I
don't like constant texting either. I have a friend who does that constantly. About 2 years ago I took her on a prizewinning weekend away in Sydney
(the prize being 2 nights in a suite at the Hilton and lunch with Ita Buttrose) and she and her partner were texting back and forth every 5 minutes.
I told her it was rude and I would chuck the phone in the harbour!
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posted 28-3-2012 @ 10:30 PM
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I know someone who created a FB for her dog. The dog has 74 friends! These are not nec people known to the owner. Go figure!
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posted 28-3-2012 @ 10:40 PM
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That is the saddest story I have heard in a long time I am also a nurse, and
I couldn't agree with you more jeddog, tea breaks are a great time for debriefing, having a whinge or just general chat to take your mind off the
job! And the fact that six people replied back with a sad face instead of actually talking to her is terribly sad. Where has the compassion gone?
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posted 28-3-2012 @ 11:11 PM
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Such a sad state of affairs. I shudder to think what the next generation is going to be like. I was at a New Year's Eve party with my young friends,
playing games. One particular friend, whom I love dearly, and who is also a FB friend, was on his phone all night. At midnight, he blogged "Happy New
Year" to his followers, but did not say it to the friends who were sitting at the table with him. I simply HATE this trend..it is rude and
self-absorbed and ignorant. I actually love facebook!! It connects me with my friends (real ones!!) and I love to interact with the world via links and posts. And, yes,
there are more and more competitions on it. BUT I don't own an iphone and
don't want one. When I go out, I want a break from it and to interact with real people in a personal face to face way. It is just so addictive!! Well
done Pink Shoes...you are awesome!! I so admire how you are handling your daughter's use of social media!! So sad, Jeddog for your nursing situation.
I really really feel for you...Fortunately, our teaching staffroom hasn't succumbed to the trend, but that is probably because the majority of us are
mature aged teachers!!
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posted 28-3-2012 @ 11:59 PM
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What a wake up call! I'll be showing this thread to my family when they come home - if only to keep them aware of how easy it is to be self absorbed
in technology... and make sure it doesn't get worse for our family. We are quite good at all doing our own thing in the evening - TV, computer (and
lottos!), phone, etc. Good time to think about more quality time together. A very touching thread, JD. Thanks.
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posted 29-3-2012 @ 01:18 AM
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How very sad, it amazes me how often people chat on devices but probably have never met most the people and yet wouldn't know their neighbors!
Also noticed more pedestrians looking at or texting on phones while not noticing cars/people around them. Can be quite dangerous.
And if people can't pull over to take a call don't answer it.
My sons girlfriend tragically lost her life while talking on her phone to my son and driving, so when I see people doing the same I will yell at them
if given the opportunity.
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posted 29-3-2012 @ 07:21 AM
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This is a sad situation but if people are that oblivious to their colleagues banning phones won't improve their personalities.... I have my phone on
me at all times because I have family with medical conditions which mean they would not call my place of employment. However I still talk to my
colleagues and do not use the face book or other apps at work at all. It's personality not technology that's the problem...
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posted 29-3-2012 @ 07:31 AM
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Technology has replaced the 'back fence'
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posted 29-3-2012 @ 09:25 AM
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That poor lady. It's a lesson for us all to pay more attention to the face and not facebook.
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